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AE, YEH DIL HAI INDEED MUSHKIL, YAAR!



No art passes our conscience in the way that film does. It goes directly to our feelings. It sinks deep into the dark rooms of our soul. We may argue as much as we want about the differences of both mediums, yet the fact remains that one’s summation of both of them arrives from one’s scale of sensibility and magnitude of knowledge. These then juxtapose to provide one, a well-defined picture of why we choose to deconstruct what we are viewing, and could end up being thoroughly idiosyncratic and quite left open to deep deliberation, based, once again, on one’s sensibility and knowledge.  


Ae Dil Hai Mushkil (ADHM), a romantic drama written and directed by Karan Johar made it to the screens for Diwali. The festival is particularly associated with the goddess of prosperity, and marks the beginning of the financial year in our country. The motion picture sported a stellar cast, yet Imran Abbas was the only saving grace I found in the film. Despite that the charm of his mellifluous voice brought life to the beauty of Urdu, he lit the screen up in what little was left of him to showcase, though unfortunately, five of his vital scenes saw the scissors.


Whilst the film opened to great reviews and appreciation by the critics, I was not able to endure the hollowness of the character development, the poor quality of dialogues, and the over-exploitation of endorphins. The scenes failed to flow seamlessly into each other, and the script made no sense considering that it was not meant to be an experimental piece of work, but pitched as la-di-da cinema intended to talk to people of a particular section of society. I walked out during the interval, (not for any didactic reasons as aforementioned) but because the incoherence, coupled with the pretentious performances, got to me. On the way out, I pondered how such situations had ever been conceptualised? And how the actors, who claim that they are mighty sharp, had even approved to enact them? Didn’t they see that it was going nowhere on paper itself? If that was not surprising enough, how did the office bearers at the censor board, who object to films without any rhyme or reason, not object to the shallow objectification of the human body here?


How had an actor like Anushka Sharma given a nod to something as thin as this? And Fawad Khan – he had signed on the dotted lines too! Just goes to prove that at times, great actors do end up making grave mistakes, and this was one textbook sample of such a blunder. Anushka is gifted, and she will catapult to doing stuff that suits her sooner than later. Fawad, however, is as deep as the ocean, and as talented as the skies above. A negligible stain like ADHM will make no difference to his stature. Instead of bothering about markets that have given him a raw deal, he should go on and make the world his canvas, and shine as bright as the brightest star in the planetary system, showing those who shunned him out from here his middle finger.



However, what irked me to stride out was the triteness of the lead actor. My two cents of counsel to him would be that if he does not stop mimicking his forefathers, then he is bound to end up in the dustbin. Such histrionics suited those times. Not these. I concur that old wine can be packaged in new bottles, but it has to be done in some innovative ways, definitely not in the style that he is epitomising here. Coming to think of it, he began his career with great promise, but overconfidence appears to have made him lose the plot along the way. The characters he has been choosing lately look like an echo of something that he has done in the past, and if he does not get a hold of his bearings, and quickly, then it would not be too long before he would be exiled from the screen and remain a mere memory.    



No matter how big the banner, or how fabled the director, the script must rule sovereign. Directors and producers need to refrain from packaging garbage as gold with the assumption that the film buffs would be incapable of seeing right through their foolhardiness. I do understand that not everything one does can turn out to be a masterpiece, but you expect a certain level of credibility at least from certain individuals, and when such individuals think that they are one step ahead, and play to the gallery, the outcome is bound to be a stillborn like ADHM. Perhaps I am making it seem terribly grim, but not everything is gone with the wind – there is no dearth of outstanding directors one can look up to, directors who concentrate most earnestly on their subject rather than the sexual and sensual metre of their material.

Nowadays, every human being who holds a phone is a photographer, just like anyone who can string a few flowery words is a writer. Stories, sadly, do not work on such principles. They are not the manifestations of the surface thoughts of one’s mind, but emblems of years of layering of analysis and introspection. When such words go on to take the appearance of anything for the big screen, then one automatically knows that the mode of cinema has a far more effective influence on the mind than the written word, and one has to adhere to a certain code of conduct in order to respect the medium. Agreed, we are assaulted by sex in the mass media. And living in the ever-distracted era, where we seem to be acquiring more and absorbing less, we are bound to think of ‘anything’ as ‘normal’ if something abnormal is shown to us repeatedly and packaged eloquently. It would be logical at this point to ask – is it abnormal to kiss? It certainly isn’t. Is it abnormal to make love? It certainly isn’t. Then you are entitled to roll your eyes and ask further – what then is the trouble? The trouble is that there is certain decorum. No matter how forward thinking we think we are, some things are not meant to be made a public display of. The human mind holds this inborn need and derives great joy in watching someone copulate, but to be cool about it and show it on the screen is anything but cool. When we step into a cinema hall with our family or friends, we do not expect to be bombarded with empty metaphors, and comprehensive representations of sex and erotica. We do not expect to hear frivolous lines to the effect of: Sex kar li uss se? (Have you had sex with him?). It is this erasure of boundaries between people that has, in some ways, resulted in the decay of values. Yes, we are undeniably at liberty to express ourselves to people based on the comfort level we share with them, but then there was this unwritten set of customs, mainly of decency that we never transgressed with them, and nobody had to remind us of it, it was part of our standard etiquette. Since we have taken ourselves terribly lightly, we are seeing that the veneration of a relationship, any relationship that is, is eroding at frightening speeds. The overexposure to the uncouth leaves us desensitised in discerning whether it is beneficial or harmful to us, and what was once taboo now becomes a way of life. 



‘Aren’t you getting a bit too primeval?’ I was asked when I shared the first draft of this article with a friend. ‘Would you watch porn with your children?’ I asked. She used as many expletives her vocabulary could muster, in jest obviously, and swiftly switched the topic. This is where I say that as ‘fashionable’ as we think we are, at the basest level we are each primeval, and in order to maintain that propriety we must refrain from meddling with the purity of our thinking. I feel that one can be kinky, experimental, have threesomes, orgies, do what they wish to do, but within the confines of their homes: while in public, one must maintain the poise that has been practiced from centuries, and hopefully will be practised for a long time after, provided wisdom prevails over this generation that seems utterly bewildered and overtaken by the frivolous. Similarly, writers and directors can say what they want to say, but there has to be a level of artistic liberty that illuminates their journey left to individual interpretation. Let us take Mohit Suri as an example, the lead couple make love in his iconic film Aashiqui 2, but the lovemaking he represented on the screen was sensual and not sexual, and that is where the difference rests – in conveying exactly what you want, but with finesse. Nothing should be made vulgar in order to capitalise on the inability to support a weak theme. 



Sultan, a romantic sports drama directed by Ali Abbas Zafar had Salman Khan in the lead opposite Anushka Sharma. It did exceptionally well without the use of love making or making out as the focus of its premise. Salman’s films are eternally bursting with unpredictable dances, and buffoonery to the limit of holding one’s stomach and tumbling off the seats in laughter. They are tailor-made largely for the family going crowd. There was a time when Salman did films that had dialogues that catered to the masses, but even then, never were they written so shoddily so as to dip one’s head in shame while watching him. When Salman, whom some love wholeheartedly, and some hate sternly, can keep away from such gimmicky publicity and make himself and his producers millions by delivering consistent successes at the box office, how difficult is it for some of the rest to take a cue?    



You can be as bohemian as you wish, and you can watch what you want to watch if it makes you happy, and justify it with your own viewpoint. Also, I may disagree with your viewpoint, but if you agree with your conscience, who am I to disagree? Yet, I have only one question to ask – say your child marches up to you one fine day and declares that she is all right with living a promiscuous life, would you let your child wear skimpy clothes, get hammered, dance the night away, and wake up the next day in bed with a stranger?

In today’s free society anything looks possible, but it is interesting that when faced with a trying situation one would find one’s roots most shaken and stirred. Crux is that human beings are cut from a similar fibre, laid-back for the world, but awfully conservative when it comes to our own, which brings me back to square one – is this the vainness we are leaving our children with? Is this the culture that we are proud about? When our men delight in scantily dressed women, and women lust after men, why then do we spend enormous amounts to cover ourselves up? We can simplify things by walking about unclothed, can’t we? As they say, think right, for thoughts are also things, and as we think, so we are. Similarly, know that words are like precious stones, and our behaviour, the jewellery.

I am not trying to be an activist here, or judging anything or anybody. I am merely asking my countrymen who claim to be the only owners of this land questions based on what I have been observing from your own conversations across varied segments of society. That you are comfortable with women, married or not, being depicted such perkily and hungered after on the screen, then how is it that you are hounding and sending others back home in certain parts of our country for indecent dressing? Is this what you are teaching your generation – double standards? Sure, sex sells, but it should to be sold to those who want to buy it. Not thrust upon the populace in hard to resist, suave gift-wraps. One cannot symbolise a woman and man by confining their treasures to their lips, bosom and genitals alone when the weight must be on their deeds and thoughts. Shouldn’t this tastelessness be something the powers that be ought to protest to, than to prohibit actors from other countries from working in our country? 



I happened to stumble upon an edition of a widely read film magazine that stated in bold letters on its cover:

FAWAD AFZAL KHAN: THE CROSS-BORDER TURK WHO’S GIVING OUR HEROES SLEEPLESS NIGHTS! In hindsight, these are the factors that disturbed people here. They were unable to digest that the cross-border Turks had invaded every discernable nuance of creativity in our country, and with such passion and unmatched perfection, that many here were plainly incompetent to keep up pace with. It is not hidden too that the abhorrence towards their faith was the lone motive to ban them, when they were the true ambassadors of amity, more like an iron steamrolling the hatred that was being spread by the statesmen who were indulging in warfare for their own personal welfare. Deplorable that by doing what they needed to do, they achieved their agenda in this country, but it is not a worry really, considering that life is designed in such a way that where danger is, grows, the saving power also!

Art is above the affairs of the state, and like Salman Khan, a Fawad Afzal Khan or an Imran Abbas would not take refuge in using sex and smooching to foster their worth. They know that they have a sacrosanctity to preserve, and in preserving that, they have proved to the world, in hard proof actually, that one does not require the scaffolding of the superficial in life to make it meaningful. To further explain this point, I see no better epitome than Ali Zafar. He is a poet, a lyricist, a model, an actor, a painter, a filmmaker, a composer, a humanitarian relentlessly campaigning for upholding the tenets of his faith, and sprinkling the magical dust of love, unity and kindness to one and all. In living each of the above, he leaves no room for impropriety to trickle into any aspect of his expressions, simply because he is aware that clean humour is vital to keeping optimum mental and physical health. Examine the world at large; a minority may appreciate the bawdy, while the majority will despise it. Goes without saying that it is the nobleness of Ali’s thoughts and in his gentleman virtues rest his strongest identity, and isn’t that the soundest portrait of how a human being should conduct oneself, in private or the public? Ali’s idea of natural growth is to let people be what they are rather than twisting them to suit his beliefs. He turns towards things in such a wonderful way that he seldom challenges it, which in turn allows people to unhide, and enabling people to unhide themselves is what humans do, wherein it awakens them, brings them closer to themselves, transforms them, and helps in presenting to themselves their sincerest selves. What’s more? To achieve this state of being, Ali uses no crutch of uncouthness. And that, in my opinion, is exactly what a clever filmmaker must strive to achieve, this idea of thinking differently than adopting a different way of thinking.



Coming back to the drawing board, Imran Abbas sets a glittering example with similar qualities as well. He is crystal clear that those he is associated with on a daily basis speak with refinement and think with intelligibility. That one does not violate the cipher of basic human goodness. He is tolerant towards the absurd, and forgives the foolish. A man who treats everyone alike, he makes an immense difference to the lives of people, and a slice of that can be found in the goodwill he garners from everyone around him. Succinctly put, both Imran and Ali demonstrate, with their own distinct approach, that finally it is a courteous code of conduct that leaves a mark on the imprint of time, and that crudity and unscrupulous temperaments have little shelf life. And that is how life must be lived now, shouldn’t it? With integrity and pride.

By now you have deduced that the plain and the simple, with oodles of humour, are some elements that keeps people in their seats. Attempt to outsmart the viewers and they will reject your over-smartness instantly, which is what sunk the ships of several filmmakers and their companies in the last couple of years. They began crunching numbers, ignoring that it is ‘connect’ that the audience seeks. Mindful, and yet carelessly oblivious, they championed along and faced bankruptcy as a direct consequence of their over-confidence. Just as a fitness aficionado knows that abs are not made in the gym, similarly, projecting escalated numbers does not make a film triumphant. For jaw-dropping abs, one has to keep at a watchful diet in accompaniment of the correct balance of workouts, and likewise, for a film to do terrifically well, one has to predict the pulse of the market (a fragment that stems out of experience, intuition and reflection) and give the spectators what they want, and not what you think they want. 



We may be repulsed of talent from the neighbouring nation, but it cannot be refuted that the television series or the films being made there have nil graphic depiction of obscenity. Nobody undresses anyone there. Nobody drinks, or demands a prerequisite that if these many kissing and lovemaking scenes are not included in the contracts, we will not do it, and despite that the series and movies from there are sought after the world over. The same goes with Iranian cinema. The ‘less is more’ policy due to their political helplessness literally pushes them to rethink how something of consequence could be portrayed without offending somebody, and keeping on track with the quintessence of the story, with the added bonus of it making complete sense to the current trends, it does wonders.

Many of you may consider me old-fashioned, rigid, black and white, or even a lunatic, but please bear in mind that there are always two sides to a coin, and this is my side. Customarily, I would not have wasted my time on a film as inane as ADHM, but I went there solely for Imran Abbas, and noticed that something was terribly amiss. The filmmakers looked like they were trapped in a time warp of sorts, and of the stupidest kinds. Even the most drab drawing room discussions have more entertaining significance than the rubbish that they had sketched up to regale the pubic with in the movie, and I felt it was more of a duty, than a choice, in wanting to communicate my undiluted thoughts. Without having to sound moralistic or pious about it, one must have the gall to call junk as junk, and not cheesecake, and what is sad is that ninety-five out of the hundred in the industry are busy blowing phony kisses to the team, and gossip-mongering behind their back ceaselessly about what a piece of crap the film is indeed. I agree that diplomacy is the key to calm coexistence, but honesty is the best policy too, isn’t it? It might offend some in the bargain, but one must care less so long as one knows that one is not being a hypocrite. 



Lastly, we must remember that we are living in an age where our lives are quite like an open book. And that it is each one of us who have to figure whether we want a semblance of balance in our lives, and the life of our immediate family, near and dear ones, or leave them to live the lives the characters in some films, books, digital platforms are living lately – insecurely, lewdly, and without aim or purpose. I also want people to realise that cinema and literature are quite the mirrors of the time, and it is rather in our own hands to amend the manner in which we want to behold their reflection. 





AE DIL HAI MUSHKIL



ON LOYALTY, ART, AND THE PETTINESS OF MINDS

 

 

 

Ae Dil Hai Mushkil features several dear friends of mine, and among them, my brother Imran makes a brief appearance—an appearance, I now suspect, has been ungraciously curtailed. The reason? Not artistic judgment, alas, but the meddling of small minds intoxicated by narrow prejudice—minds so petty that even those wholly unconnected to the matter have been made to suffer.

 

Let me speak plainly: I care not a whit for your political leanings. A friend remains a friend, and a brother, a brother. Love, not ideology, governs the compass of my affections. And where affection abides, I do not permit the froth of nationalism or the tantrums of public sentiment to muddy the waters.

 

Indeed, I confess to a certain disdain—yes, a withering contempt—for the manner in which some have chosen to handle this affair. And before anyone is tempted to sharpen their tongue in these quarters, I would urge them to take a long, hard look in the mirror and give their own mouldering prejudices a proper audience. Let your venom pour forth in solitude, and spare the rest of us the rot.

 

As to how the film will fare, I do not pretend to know. But this much I will say: if your mind is not already sullied by pettiness, I encourage you to go and watch it. If, however, your head is already brimming with rubbish, then by all means, go and have it topped up—you deserve no better.

 

Fawad Afzal Khan is like a brother to me, and Imran Abbas Naqvi is my family. And I will always stand by my family. The fleeting applause of the public, however loud, means little to me. Blood, and the fidelity of love, mean everything.

 

 

Postscript: LET THIS BE READ WITH AN UNCLOUDED MIND AND AN UNTROUBLED HEART.

 

A Word of Caution:

 

 

This reflection is not intended for the zealot, nor for those whose convictions leave no room for charity. Let the intolerant and the immoderate pass it by—for truth makes no lodging in a mind already barricaded against it.

 

I do not deny that the producers had staked a considerable fortune upon the film’s success. It requires no particular genius to surmise that by now they have not only recouped their investment but have likely profited handsomely through endorsements, partnerships, and auxiliary commercial channels. The film industry is no tender terrain—it demands both nerve and resilience. And yet, let us not lend it more gravity than it deserves. The real loss here was not the seed but the surplus—the anticipated windfall from box office returns.

 

And let us be honest—this was never truly about cinema, was it? Two nations, long embroiled in tensions for reasons they themselves barely comprehend, found themselves once more in a familiar scuffle. And who, as ever, bears the heaviest burden? Not the architects of conflict, but the innocents who merely wish to live, to love, to create.

 

The hostilities between these neighbouring states did not erupt yesterday—they were ignited decades ago when politicians discovered that animosity could be minted into gold; that fear could be used to draw borders deeper than those inked upon maps. This is not merely about politics—it is about the disfigured, degrading theatre that passes for politics. But even beyond that sordid stage, this was about loyalty: to friendship, to brotherhood, to the sacred bond that exists between hearts who have stood by one another.

 

And in yielding—so publicly, so compliantly—to the dictates of those who would make puppets of artists, you declared by deed, if not by word, that profit holds dominion over principle, and that all our high talk of affection collapses under the weight of coin. I do not deny the complexities you faced; I sympathise. But I cannot condone it. For to abandon a brother in the face of pressure, to disown a friend to appease the mobs, is not merely betrayal—it is akin to partaking of his flesh whilst he still draws breath.

 

Let us, if only for a moment, cast aside the tangled webs of ideology and examine this matter with an unclouded eye. Countless films never see the light of day; they lie forgotten in cans, consigned to the dust of history. Ae Dil Hai Mushkil could well have joined their number—and that, perhaps, would have been the nobler course. Better oblivion than to trumpet so loudly the creed that money is everything, and all else is expendable.

 

There were, I dare say, other paths—roads less base. Could you not have considered alternative means of distribution? Could the film not have been offered through digital avenues, or broadcast in neutral territories, where no flame of jingoism would set fire to its spirit? Was it truly impossible to exercise that creative ingenuity which you so often boast is your métier?

 

Have not the Americans filmed beyond their shores, and the English shot their dramas upon foreign soil? Was there truly no way to continue creating with the very people you once revered—no way that would both preserve your integrity and sidestep the politics of hate?

 

And yet, like frightened cats doused in cold water, you shrank back. Under the glare of public fury, you revoked your love with chilling haste, vowing never again to collaborate with those whom only yesterday you called brothers.

 

This, dear reader, is what the love of money can do. It can turn affection into expediency, fidelity into farce. It can make decent men behave in ways so pitiable, so small, that one is left not merely saddened, but ashamed.

 

To live amongst those who praise us when we serve their interests, and disown us the moment their standing is threatened—that is a sorrowful burden. But more sorrowful still is when we, knowing better, choose to become one of them.

 

Yes, it was, in many ways, a transaction of mutual benefit. Our own creative industry, finding itself increasingly fatigued—it’s well of talent rather parched—looked across the border for fresh vigour, for the kind of panache that could breathe life into roles long suffocated by monotony. It is no secret, after all, that many of our so-called stars have outlived their artistic merit, their presence more burden than boon, their fame an inflated bubble paid for not in merit but in myth. In contrast, those from across the divide sought the reach our industry offered, to give their artistry a wider berth, and that, too, was fair.

 

But here is where we must acknowledge a rather inconvenient truth: those very artists from “the other side” had within them not only a natural physical grace, but a cerebral command—a combination which, had they so chosen, could have surpassed us with ease. We, meanwhile, had squandered our inheritance by exalting mediocrity. We continue to hail flop shows as ‘saleable,’ to enshrine the talentless and crown them as kings, all while neglecting the few genuine craftsmen—those writers, those visionaries—who still labour in the background, creating brilliance with ink rather than glamour. I daresay it is high time we rouse ourselves from this daydream of delusion and squarely face the reality we have so long postponed.

 

Just a few days ago, someone asked me with incredulity, “Why this pining for them?” 

 

To which I can only reply with wounded honesty: “You would show greater respect to a dog in this land than you would to a man whom I love as a brother. And then you dare ask why my heart aches for him?”

 

Let me be utterly clear: it is no crime to love—neither by law, nor by conscience, nor by any code of honour I recognise. To love another human being, regardless of where they were born or what flag they salute, is not treason—it is humanity. And no one—no evangelist, no mob, no sanctimonious patriot—has the right to question my loyalty merely because I choose to cherish a brother for who he is, and not for what I might gain by association. I am as much a child of this soil as any man who waves its flag. This is my motherland too. And if my nation finds itself entangled in a quarrel with another, why, I ask, must I as a civilian be forced to bear the cost?

 

Why not, instead, drag to account those whose decisions have led us into this mire? Why not fix your indignation upon the architects of discord, rather than vent it upon the innocent, the apolitical, the ordinary folk who ask only to live and to love in peace?

 

I must say—and I say it with as much restraint as my conscience will allow—that I am weary of being asked, time and again, to prove my fidelity. Disagreements are natural, even necessary; dissent and disapproval are woven into the fabric of any vibrant society. But to descend into slander, to hurl vulgarities, to reduce a fellow human being to the status of a beggar by mere word—such behaviour is not only unbecoming, it is shameful.

 

And yet, we are in an age—how tragic to say it—where grace and civility are not merely absent, but ridiculed. Where decorum is dismissed as pretension, and politeness mistaken for weakness. But the highest strength of man, I believe, lies in his ability to adapt, to uphold his dignity even amidst degeneration, and to draw goodness from even the foulest of circumstances.

 

By all means, let us disagree—openly, even passionately—but let us not trample upon another’s dignity in doing so. Let us never justify hatred in the name of patriotism, nor weaponise creed, origin, or name. Let me ask plainly: had the names in question been Anil or Adam, would there have been such an uproar? Would they have been banished from our screens and bantered about as enemies?

 

You and I both know the answer.

 

What would I have done, had I stood in that place? Permit me to explain it thus:

 

Let us imagine that war has erupted between two nations—again, alas, not an uncommon spectacle in our fractured world. Amidst the rattle of sabres and the deafening roars of nationalistic pride, I look not at the banners nor at the borders, but at a man. A man who has, for more reasons than can be counted on one’s fingers, become a brother to me—not by birth, perhaps, but by bond. He has stood by me in seasons both lean and plentiful. He has shared his gifts with my nation, and my nation, in turn, has traded handsomely on his talent. There has existed between us an unspoken pact—not merely commercial, but human: an interdependence, a silent understanding, as all lasting relationships must inevitably possess.

 

At some point, this man—initially viewed perhaps as a commodity—becomes something more. Familiarity gives way to fraternity. He no longer remains a figure on a poster or a name in the credits, but a soul with whom one has shared laughter, toil, and trust. And then, just as swiftly, comes the test. At the first stirrings of unrest, what do we do? We flee. Like the proverbial jackal who, in the face of distant thunder, abandons the very kin who once sheltered him, we retreat—not out of wisdom, but cowardice. When, in truth, that is the moment to draw near, not withdraw.

 

Would it have cost me? Yes, no doubt. But I would have let the accursed money go. For life, dear reader, is not—has never been—about profit margins. Life is about love. It is about the sacredness of human relationship. It is about my brother. About bonds not forged in blood, but in that rarer substance—loyalty. And for such a bond, I would lay down my very life without hesitation. I would not trifle with it by choosing gold over man. I would not prostrate myself before empty-headed bullies, nor retract my truth merely to appease those whose appetite for power is fed by hatred, and whose coffers, ever growing, remain insatiable whether I draw breath or not.

 

Will some now call me a traitor? Very likely. Those who laud the fallen—men perished not by fate, but by the mess of their own making—as martyrs, are often quickest to vilify the voices that question them. They who drive luxury cars and sport designer garb are the loudest in calling others dishonourable, failing to see the hollowness of their own grandeur. Yet they forget: one’s brother may forgive an insult—that is the virtue of his tehzeeb, his culture—but the one who betrayed him shall never again meet his eyes in peace. For such treachery, if there be any conscience left at all, corrodes the soul more surely than rust corrodes iron.

 

Let them not forget: I can adopt another homeland. But I shall never find another brother. The ones who bowed to the pressure and followed the convenient path have made it unmistakably clear—they valued only their interests. “We needed you,” they seem to say, “we used you. And now, seeing in you a threat, we discard you.” If I were in your place, I would walk away from such fair-weather friends, who sell their love like a commodity and abandon honour for comfort.

 

And yet, even in the thick of this absurd tempest, there are those—yes, from across that imaginary line we call a border—who have responded not with rage, but with grace. Who have spoken not of retaliation, but of peace. Who have shown a concern not only for their present, but for the children yet to come. To them, I bow. To you, I say—I do not know if you shall ever understand the depth of what I feel, but I love you. Deeply. Not for your name or your place of birth, but for the light you have brought into my life.

 

You matter to me as much as these others do. I care not for stature, nor for stardom, nor for the vanity of fame. An actor can be hired. A performance purchased. But that rare intimacy between two human hearts—unsullied by agenda, unmeasured by gain—that is not to be gambled away, even in a storm. That, above all, must be preserved.

 

It is in such moments of trial that we see our true selves—our bare, unvarnished selves. And those who have failed in this test have shown what little fibre they truly possess.

 

Forgive me, if I have repeated myself. My mind, once bridled, has now poured forth like a volcano long suppressed. I know too that I have been emotional—but what is life if one is forever calculating and guarded? Caution has not saved us from ruin, and apathy has birthed no miracles.

 

And so, when this manufactured madness finally burns itself out, I await with quiet hope the arrival of Tum Bin 2—a film written, co-produced, and directed by my bade bhaiya, Anubhav Sinha. With my friends, the charming Aashim Gulati, the chiselled Aditya Seal, and the ever-graceful Neha Sharma, perhaps it shall remind us—if only for a few hours—of beauty, of gentleness, and of joy. God knows, in these grim times, we need such reminders. We need art, not acrimony. Light, not loathing.

 

Let us at least attempt, in this world we have marred, to leave behind something finer for those who shall inherit it.

 

Ali Zafar - My Brother. My Life. My Reason For Being!



My darling, my charming, and my favourite younger brother at a gig last night. When he is not composing, reading, writing, keeping awake to find ingenious ways to make the world a better place. When he is not painting, or being the perfect brother that he is, he picks his guitar up, or let's his fingertips bring life to the keys of the piano just like the magical dust that he sprinkles on each of us makes us better because of him being around us. He raises us to love ourselves more, and his lips break into a satisfied smile when he observes how we hand over that love he has given us to someone else. He enjoys doing what he loves, and we enjoy watching him enjoy doing what he loves, and love him even more for living his dream. 

We are fortunate to have him in the family. I would never choose any other time to be born, if I am ever given a chance; a life without my brother would be no life worth living. Only in the rarest of the rare instances do the younger one's become the torchbearers of the legacy when the older ones are still alive, but he is one who has managed to reach heights that when we watch him our eyes go moist with pride and our chests swell with love. I would give my life for him without thinking a wink, and that is what he deserves - us to love him the way he deserves to be loved: with our heart and soul, and with every ounce of our blood, although somewhere I feel that is still not enough for what he is to us and what he does for us.  

Love you my Zee!!!








Danyal Zafar - Most Importantly LOVE


My Kidd Danyal shared the image I am pasting below. If only people had truly understood the meaning of life, the gravity of love, and that we are here today and gone before we can even bat our eyelids, they would not be behaving in the way they are now behaving.

Shocking to see how low we can stoop to unthinkable levels of spite in stating that we are protecting our values when we are actually falling into a deeper ravine of indecency every single time we demean someone else.


The October 17th Boys!



Many may be born on the same day, BUT to be connected to them the way Anand and I are connected is something of pure chance and pure bliss. Thank you my dear mate for making life the coolest, day in and day out, with your words of encouragement and inspiration.


All I managed was a mere “Happy birthday, bro!” this morning, and this is what Anand sent me. As you all must have surmised by now I am nowhere close to him to even think, leave alone inscribe something like this, so without much further ado I am sharing what my buddy (whom I share my birthday with) sent me this morning.

Many thanks for your love and all of it right back at you, multiplied a million times over! 


17/10/16, 06:52:41: Anand Sivakumaran:

Dear Fara,

Happy Birthday.

Have a supercalifragilisticexpialidocious day. And year.

In fact why stop there, I pray that every day henceforth is a never ceasing joyride of adventure and love and exhilaration and enthusiasm and madness and mirth and music.

I pray that this year you truly find yourself and what you want out of everything you do, I pray you have clarity on the kind of people you want to be with and the kind of life you want to live.

And that you then act on this clarity with renewed zeal and get go and make it happen forthwith. May all the forces of the Universe support you on this making you truly the person you were meant to be, shining, dazzling, living the life that was truly your birthright.

I wish for you to love yourself and those around you, unconditionally and totally and for that love to be multiplied manifold and come back to you from every direction. Let there be love in everything you do, every word you speak, let there be an aura of love around you that touches even strangers, let love radiate from your very being.

I wish for infinite joy from the tiniest of things in your life – the smile of a stranger, the tune on a radio, a snowflake, a raindrop, the leaves that lay themselves at your feet, the puddles that invite you to become a 6 year old again…

In fact I wish for you to be a child again at your very core, live with that innocence, carefree sense of adventuring, faith, surrender, optimism, belief in goodness, trust that everything is great and it’s just going to get greater. Which is exactly how it will be in your life, today and forever.

I wish for the unexpected – unexpected breakthroughs that take you to doing what you always wanted to do, being with the kind of loved ones you have dreamt of, having the kind of life experiences, journeys and adventures that have always featured on your bucket list. In fact I pray that you exhaust your bucket list asap and are forced to make many more and you run through them too faster than a roadrunner fleeing Wile E. Coyote.

I wish you have contentment and gratitude and love and bliss in your heart always. That positivity and peace are in your every breath. That goodness becomes a shield around you that nurtures and protects you. That laughter is your best friend and constant shadow. And madness – that keeda/itch to just let your hair down, be crazy, do crazy constantly crops up and you give in to it with wild abandon.

I do not wish you the life you have dreamt of. I wish you that multiplied a million fold and then some. Let life delight and surprise and enchant and entice you always.

To eternal exploring, learning, living, laughing, loving, singing, dancing.
To being alive.
To being you.

To sunshine and snowflakes, raindrops and rainbows, fairy lights and pixiedust, magic and miracles in every moment of your life.

Love and panda hugs.
Always



PEACE BEGINS WHERE PRETENCE ENDS


Let us dispense, if only for a moment, with the illusion so deftly spun by statesmen and demagogues—that those who fall upon the altar of war do so for you and me, for the safety of our homes, or the glory of our flags. The truth, I fear, is more dispiriting. These brave souls do not perish for the citizen, but for the convoluted quarrels of those who govern—men who, in their perennial quest for pre-eminence, trade the lives of others like pawns upon a blood-soaked chessboard. They die not for a nation’s soul, but for a sovereign’s pride, for a geopolitical bluff, for that all-too-human desire to prove who among them may howl the loudest across the map of the world.

 

The conjuring of collective frenzy, that fevered rallying of emotion, is but a carefully orchestrated theatre. It is not stirred for the sake of unity, nor for love of country, but to rouse and redirect grievance toward a chosen other—often an entire people, a belief, a history. And yet, amidst the clamour, a curious bifurcation emerges: one group perceives the pageantry for what it is—a magician’s sleight of hand. The other, perhaps wearied by the burden of helplessness or lulled into complicity by convenience, chooses a kind of wilful sleep. They do not believe the tale, but they repeat it all the same, like actors in a passion play whose script they never wrote but now perform with solemn zeal.

 

Speak to the clear-eyed, the rational, those whose hearts remain unclouded by ancient animosities, and you will hear no cry for vengeance, no hunger for blood. What you will hear is the simple affirmation that we were not made to despise. At our most unguarded, we confess to a longing for fraternity, not feud. Our true quarrel is not with our neighbour across the border but with the ghosts that haunt our own thinking—those inherited beliefs, tribal convictions, and dogmas so deeply woven into our identity that to part with them feels like an amputation of the self. We wear them as one might wear an ancestral ring—though it fits no longer, we will not take it off, for it is family, it is history, it is ours.

 

And here, in such dark hours, do we reveal our true visage. Not the polished mask of public civility, but the raw and sometimes ruinous face beneath. It is a moment of unveiling, and what emerges is not always noble. For if war is the furnace that tests the metal of our character, then the sound of our own voices—suddenly indistinguishable from those we claim to oppose—ought to shake us to the core.

 

Indeed, our greatest battlefield is not out there in the dust and din, but within the quiet chambers of our own selves. We are, most tragically, at war with ourselves. For were it not so, we would not so easily mirror the very cruelty we profess to abhor. We would not become a caricature of the enemy, so lost in our opposition that we begin to adopt its form.

 

I am reminded here of the portentous warning penned by Fyodor Dostoevsky in The Brothers Karamazov“Above all, avoid falsehood, every kind of falsehood, especially falseness to yourself. Watch over your own deceitfulness and look into it every hour, every minute.” In that line lies the key to our deliverance. Not through the sharpening of weapons or the raising of flags, but through a deeper vigilance—the kind that examines the soul with unflinching honesty and says: Am I true? Or am I merely the echo of another’s hatred?

 

Let us remember: peace is not won on battlefields; it is cultivated in the soil of the soul. And if we are ever to see a different world, it must begin with the exorcism of the war within.