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THE FROST THAT STEALS BENEATH THE DOOR


 

Hannah Arendt once observed, “The death of human empathy is one of the earliest and most telling signs of a culture about to fall into barbarism.”

 

There are certain calamities that arrive with trumpets and earthquakes, and others that steal upon us like a soft and solitary draught beneath the door. The fading of empathy belongs to the latter. It does not announce itself with spectacle. It is rather the gentle recession of warmth from a room whose furnishings remain immaculate and undisturbed, a subtle cooling of the moral atmosphere while everything visible appears fixed in its accustomed place. And yet, somewhere beneath the polished surface, something vital has slipped out of reach.

 

Picture, if you will, a modest town—neither exceptionally charming nor especially troubled. Morning light touches the cobblestones; the smell of bread rises from the baker’s window; children hurry to lessons with the earnest energy of youth. Nothing is amiss. And yet, deep in the hidden chambers of human intercourse, a quiet erosion begins.

 

A woman misplaces her glove upon the pavement. Not long ago, someone would have hastened to restore it to her—almost instinctively, as one retrieves a child’s balloon before the wind carries it off. Today, a passerby pauses, weighs the inconvenience, and continues on his way. A man seated on a bench hears the weary sigh of the stranger beside him, but he does not lift his eyes from his newspaper. A shopkeeper observes the trembling hand of an elderly customer as she counts her coins, yet offers no word of ease or patient smile. Each omission is small—so small that no one would think to record it. But small neglects are how a great forgetting begins.

 

The real danger lies in the outward sameness of things. Empathy may depart, but no roof tiles shift to mark its absence. Doors open and close as they always have. It is entirely possible to live for quite some time in a civilisation that is quietly hollowing itself from within. The polite conventions remain; it is the soul of them that grows thin.

 

When empathy retreats, efficiency often steps forward to take its place. People grow competent but unkind, courteous but detached. They selve themselves into private enclosures where compassion is treated as an optional virtue—pleasant, perhaps, but not strictly necessary. And in that chill interior climate, Arendt’s warning becomes clear: the loss of empathy is not simply a personal failing but a structural crack in the great arch of civilisation.

 

For once a populace ceases to imagine the inward life of its neighbour, it becomes perilously ready to accept hardness as wisdom, indifference as order, cruelty as the unavoidable logic of the times. A society may descend into barbarism not by a dramatic plunge but by a slow descent—step by unremarkable step—until someone finally wonders, with a kind of startled sorrow, When did we cease to care for one another?

 

And yet the frost is not final. Hope remains wherever a single heart pauses before turning away, wherever one human soul recognises another as kin. Civilisation is upheld not by grand declarations but by the quiet, unwavering acts of charity that warm the world from within.

 

So I would ask you, friend and fellow traveller in this fragile age: what small gesture of human kindness passed through your week—either offered or received—and what faint yet steadfast promise did it carry of the world we might still become?

 

 


Danyal Zafar - THE CARRIAGE OF KNOWLEDGE



My dearest Danyal

As elders, our natural instinct is to want to protect our kids; we aim to take care of them, we imagine that without anchoring them they might waver in life. As time winds down, the realisation dawns that when your children have grown up, the first thing you do is stop telling them what to do – not because they would oppose you – but simply because by stepping aside on tiptoe, you can observe them etch a forte for themselves where they would be a role model for the rest of the world to idolise upon.

The day I watched you spread your wings my dear Danny, I grasped that it was my time to tiptoe and observe, from afar, how humanity was taking to you quite like iron takes to a magnet. I found myself finding such rapture in your eminence, and it was not something that I could express via any medium: art or words. It was a feeling that an elder brother felt for his younger brother, and it was a feeling that I would want gone with me when I cease to breathe, embedded and buried deep within my heart.

However, when the world is shrouded in mist, and the atmosphere is so bloody that only the stupid are fairly untouched, whilst the sensitive wither like a bug-befouled leaf, my chest rather swells with honour when I see light at the end of the tunnel because of you my Kidd, or do I even entitle you that, because you are now an admirable young man who has acquired such a secure grasp on how to shape civilisation just by being yourself, that calling you a Kidd would be most violating that very essence, although, the fact does remain that regardless of how older you grow, you will still remain, in my heart and soul, my little Kidd . . . my little Danny. And as severe as this may sound, this is also precisely why I am rest assured that even if I were to die, my greatest treasure, you, would be the beacon who would manoeuvre the mislead to the zenith of peace and harmony that they most rightfully need to find themselves in, for god knows that the world needs a healer, and most urgently.


Thus my Dan, a man with such a gifted ability and influence to make a dent, remember that when I close my eyes never to wake up again, live so that your very presence would have made all the difference to mankind. Commit to memory that your alluring lips must speak words of kindness. Your lovely eyes ought to pursue the good in people. For an athletic structure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run his fingers through it at least once in a day. For carriage, walk with the knowledge that you will never walk alone. Remember that whether we elders are there with you or not, we leave you a tradition with a future that you will try your best to the tender loving care of human beings, and you will strive that it will never become obsolete. That you will keep in mind that it is not things, but people even more than anything, that have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed. Be mindful that these very people will displease you to such irksome levels, whereby you may desire to toss them before the guillotine, yet, never toss anybody out, for everyone who traverses your course does so in order to teach you something of value. Most important of all, bear in mind that if you ever need a helping hand, you must find one at the end of your arm, and the other one, you must use for helping others, always.  

While I wish you the best of everything in life and nothing more my Danny, do not think me callous when I say that I would also like that at different walks of life for you to experience defeat, suffering, struggle, loss – it is these occurrences and their responses, laterally with delight and humour that are rather responsible to provide you a way to find your way out of the depths of delirium. It is these encounters that will help inculcate in you an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that would fill you with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen, the trials and tribulations of life make them what they are.

I am infinitely thankful that you exist, my Dan. Now go along and mend the world. It is indeed your forecourt.

In deed and thought
I remain
Your very own
– Farahdeen  


PS: I know, I know, I vowed I would step away and watch quietly, and even then I ended up giving you the longest lecture in the world. For that you officially have the freedom hereon to hold a gun to my temple and pull the trigger (as swiftly and painlessly as possible), as I mouth the last words – But, my Kidd, old habits die-hard, so do I really deserve this? 



Photographs by Izzah Shaheen Malik

Our World Our Mission – Imran Abbas





They say that a beautiful face lacks the tenderness of the heart. Since such talk has been alive since eons, there might be some truth to it, and I am no entity really to challenge its validity, though my experience has found the contrary to this belief.

In accidental cases such a maxim might be applicable, and that is simply because one gets rather accustomed to being lauded for one’s appearance and when one is not bathed in such accolades, it begins to affect the psyche leading then to terrible low self-esteem. So in extreme cases such as these, an entire lack of kindness, stemming clearly from a deep sense of missing that acknowledgment, methinks, might have triggered such a notion to flourish in the society. However, there are exceptions to every rule, and one such dazzling exception is my brother from Lahore, Imran Abbas, whom I fondly call Eemuuu (mouth that with dollops of love and emotion) because that is the affection he stirs up in you by being him. As you can fathom from the drift, I could go on forever about Eemuuu, but I shall refrain from doing so and post instead something he posted most recently on his Facebook wall letting you decide whether beautiful faces do really lack the tenderness of the heart.


Saturday 14th May 2016

Dear All

Will you please post this message in the known groups so that it gets circulated to as many people as possible? Thank you.

This is the season of fruits like mango, jamun (black plum), jackfruit etcetera. My request to all of us is kindly don't throw the seeds, wash them instead and keep them in a plastic pouch in your car. Whenever you go out travelling and find any barren land, especially on a highway, do throw these seeds around. They will germinate easily the coming monsoon. If with this act we can contribute even a single tree each to our world, our mission would be most successful.

This is not just a random idea – it was initiated decades ago. Many other districts have appealed to people to spread abundance in nature this way, and many citizens have joined this wonderful mission. It would be wonderful if all of us also join this and contribute back to our next generation, to this world in general.

Please forward this to all groups....

Thanks
Imran Abbas


Bear in mind that it is not the surface splendour that is significant, but what we contain inside our soul, and what we contain inside our soul is most revealed in what we like, because what we like is what we are, and what we are is what our soul is made up of.

So people, let light into your lives today and let its luminescence consume you, and when it does, do thank those who evoke such an emotion in you: in this instance my dear brother Eemuu.



Akshay Oberoi


When you observe today’s youth with the, “What’s up?” and “Dude!” culture you wonder whether they would by any chance have remnants of the manners that we were raised with, where to utter a thank you or a sorry was a way of life and not considered anything out of the ordinary, or, to rise from the chair when a woman entered a room and left the room was a custom, which most of the youth of today find rather old-fashioned and amusing. Just when you think there is no scope for transformation in a civilization so occupied with its own self, you, by mere accident, come across someone who is very much part of the, “What’s up, dude?” ethos and yet maintains a distinct thoroughbred approach to life. 

Most recently, I was admiring what Martin Luther King Jr. had done to mankind and while seeking inspiration and direction from the life of someone older I had failed to realise that I did not have to look that far because inspiration and direction was only at an arms distance from me in form of the kids around me who I had taken for granted but discovered are great beyond words would ever express. That's when I found myself observing Akshay a lot more carefully and discovered that his humility was matchless. An epitome of polish, his attention to make sure that he conveyed what he had to, and yet not ever cross the thin line of respect regardless of not only being younger, but more like friends, was something that I truly admired in him. In time, I made out how the heart of people would swell with joy upon the mention of his name and how my mind would be filled with reverence when I saw the love people had for him because I knew he was someone who would give them, who loved him, much more than they could imagine – something that was elemental to his nature. At the same time too I could not but think that the tenderness and kindness I saw in him, as some would perceive them today, are not signs of his weakness and despair but clear manifestations of his strength and resolution, and this is something that is so easily a second skin to describe Akshay to those who do not really know him.

To go a little back in time, I would like to throw light on something when Akshay’s motion picture appeared on the silver screens. Despite the fact that it filled me up with delight so see that he had grown up into this admirable young man filled with candour and depth, I sent him a text one evening knowing that he was at a popular awards function that read thus:

“Bro, I can’t wait for the day I see you receive your first award. To say the least, as such I am proud of who you have made of yourself, but I will certainly be even prouder on that particular day since the world would then look up to you as it ought to with great pride. Let us see that day soon, my Kidd. Soon!!!”

And the response I obtained was this:

“My, bro, this is one of the nicest messages I have ever received. Will work my ass off to fulfil what I came here for. I hope I make you proud, in the years to come. Thanks for the encouragement.”

That’s when I figured that what a marvellous blend of both worlds these kids of today have amassed, and it would be very unjust if I didn’t conclude with the feeling that indeed it is so very true that our outward nature is nothing but a reflection of who we are inside and what a better way to see that in none other than Akshay. 

I know you will make a great deal of difference to not only the people around you but to the world at large and as ever, I am PROUD OF YOU, Akshay!